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Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Dressing for My Husband

A friend just posted this on her facebook wall:

Girls do not dress for boys. They dress for themselves and of course, each other. If girls dressed for boys they'd just walk around naked at all times.

I was about to disagree with her, but on second thought (and especially since I'm married) she's right! :D  I'm not trying to be dirty, I promise...just honest.

Since going around au natural isn't generally an option for me, I do try to dress in a way that makes my husband smile.  This is a relatively new thing for me.  Before having a husband (or fiance, or boyfriend) I liked to look cute, but what I wore wasn't a big deal.  I rarely wore makeup (still don't wear much).

However, once I had a man in my life, and once I realized how men are such visual creatures, I started paying more attention to the way I dressed.In my dresser are a lot of t-shirts, you know, those screen-print tees that I got from camp, or youth trips, etc.  None of them are very flattering, so if it weren't for the memories attached, I would probably just get rid of them entirely.

Since being married I've been learning how to love my husband more, and dressing in a way that makes him smile is one of those ways.  Now, that doesn't always mean short shorts and cleavage-baring shirts, although sometimes when it's just us at home I love doing that for him!  It's really nice to have that freedom.  Most of the time, though I wear my usual modest--but nice--clothes.  And I've started making it a big priority to be all put together by the time Hubby comes home for lunch.  That means dressed, teeth brushed, hair done, makeup on, and smelling nice (he loves my Midnight Amethyst from Bath and Body Works--yep, that's as high-end as I get! :D ).

This is one really easy way I can show my husband I love him.  I might still be in my bathrobe with messy hair when he leaves for work, but by the time he gets home I like looking pretty.  Now, don't get me wrong, Hubby loves me no matter how I look, and he's said so more than once!  But looking nice makes me feel good as well as making him smile.  And if there's one thing I love doing more than almost anything, it's making my husband smile.  :)

Another very good reason to dress nicely for my husband is that it's a God-honoring thing to do!  I made a vow to God, my husband, and those who witnessed it to love, honor, cherish and respect my husband (among other things).  That includes pleasing my husband by dressing beautifully.  It's also taking care of my body, which, since the Holy Spirit lives in me, is God's temple.

It makes God smile when I make my husband smile, because by loving Hubby, I'm loving the God who made both of us and who gave us to each other.  One lovely benefit of marriage is the mutual pleasure and joy of both the husband and the wife.  That is one way God blesses his children through marriage: he gives people to each other to increase their joy!  Any way I can increase my husband's joy, whether a little or a lot, is pleasing and honoring to the God who brought us together.


  1. sweet words :)

    I try to dress nice for hubby too. I was being really intentional about it a few months ago, even changing before he got home if i needed to, but I've slacked a bit the past few months. I'm 9 months preggo currently and not feeling too pretty and there's just not that much that fits me these days!

    I'm looking forward to being able to dress nicely again after baby comes <3 great reminder!!!

    1. Thank you! I'm sure your hubby still thinks you're absolutely beautiful with that baby inside you :) :) But I bet it will be nice to get back into your normal clothes!


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